So I was watching a rerun of Friends the other day I admit it, I still love that show. Everyone was shocked at the unusual pairing, and even more so at their very amorous behavior. But in the end, the couple prevailed. Recently, I read a blog where a separated, lates woman stated that she wanted advice on how to land a much younger man - say, late 20s or early 30s. If you want to get people into a heated discussion, forget politics or religion - bring up an older woman wanting to date a man half her age. A middle-aged man who gets divorced and wants to date year-old women gets ridiculed for that even more than for buying the red convertible Corvette. Historically, men have been providers for women and children, so an older man can provide while a younger woman can bear the kids.
Couples in this situation had to address the fertility concern head-on, with some choosing to take the leap relatively quickly while others took a pass.
One woman, who is married to a man 14 years younger, said the only time she feels threatened by her age is when she looks in the mirror. Is he going to leave me? No matter what your age, to go forward in life with an eye toward becoming a kinder, more loving person sounds like an infinitely wiser approach to keeping love alive than worrying over the inevitable appearance of laugh lines.
We know we sound like a broken record, but this, too, depends on the situation. Maybe your younger mate has more sexual experience than you do. Sexual chemistry is a big deal for a lot of people, so try to take it as slow or as fast as you want.
And remember to use your words in the bedroom to make sure that everyone is getting what they need. But your idea of a fun date night might be totally different from theirs. But with a little self awareness and a lot of communication, anything can be figured out.
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Image zoom. At that point, I realized I didn't see much of a future with him anyway.
Culturally, the older woman/younger man dynamic is perceived as an oddity, or a fluke. Fortunately, that's changing as more older-woman and younger-man couplings make headlines. The idea that it's normal and natural for men to date women five, 10, 15 or even 20 years younger than them is pretty firmly culturally ingrained at this point. Jan 17, Ideally, aim for a man no more than 10 years younger. More than that is okay too, but once you get in the years younger range, you're dating a different generation altogether, and only in exceptional situations does this ever work out. Also, there's a difference between being open to younger men and ONLY wanting to date younger men.
He was, essentially, a kid. I liked the thrill of it at first.
He still enjoyed going to concerts, bars, and doing fun activities that weren't just dinner and a movie. We dated for three months.
Honestly, he made me feel younger, and when we first started dating he thought I was his age. When he found out I was almost 10 years older them him, he was shocked, but said I seemed younger than my age.
Ultimately, the age factor didn't matter much to him. We were both successful in our careers, we constantly talked about current events, and had similar political and social views.
Realize that in dating a much younger man, you won't share many cultural references. A man four years younger than you, sure, will get much of the same things you do, but one around 10 years younger probably won't. And you might not get his either. Feb 21, Honestly, he made me feel younger, and when we first started dating he thought I was his age. When he found out I was almost 10 years older them him, he was shocked, but said I seemed younger . Jun 29, Jess Carbino, the former in-house sociologist for dating apps Tinder and Bumble, says that her research with women over fifty revealed a strong desire to date men eight or more years younger, in part because they assume that age group will be more open to new experiences. "They find the aging process for men to be more accelerated than among Author: Samantha Vincenty.
But, to be honest, it was exhausting to date him because he could never relax. When I suggested just spending a night at home eating dinner, he'd beg to go out and try a new restaurant or get a table at a club.
Deep down I was more of a homebody, so it didn't work out.
We found ourselves in a romantic relationship when we slept together after our company's holiday party. At the time, I had just gotten a divorce, so getting into a fast and fun relationship was a whirlwind post-divorce experience.
I fell in love with a man a decade younger than me.
It felt refreshing to date a good-looking younger guy. He said I was the oldest woman he had dated, but that he liked to date women older than him. We didn't have much in common, but that didn't matter.
We had a great time together.